Activity: Understanding Your Behavior

In today's fast-paced world, understanding oneself and others is paramount for personal growth and effective collaboration. In this blog post, we delve into a simple yet powerful Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) activity aimed at uncovering unique strengths and fostering a deeper appreciation for individual differences. Join us as we explore how this activity cultivates self-awareness, empathy, and a sense of belonging, ultimately empowering students to thrive both academically and socially.

The Goal

This exercise not only reinforces self-awareness of unique strengths and skills, but how to listen and understand the strengths, skills, and styles of others.

RAMP (ASCA) Mindset & Behaviors addressed and developed:

Results Orientation; Communication; Collaboration; Social Maturity.
Social/Emotional: Building Positive Peer Relationships; Self Confidence; Sense of Belonging; Empathy.


  • Circle of chairs
  • Indigo Report
  • Pencil and paper

Step 1:

Divide students into pairs. Emphasize to the students that this exercise is about highlighting strengths, not weaknesses.  Have students read their partner’s About You page from the Indigo Report. Have them star things they think are accurate about the other person.

Example: Jack discovers that what stuck out most to his partner about him is “likes to win through persistence.” He thinks about how he could apply that mentality toward the college environment.

Step 2:

Swap reports back and have students star things that stand out on their individual report. Give students time to talk about why they starred the things that they did on each report.

Step 3:

Ask the following questions:

  • How did it feel to hear about yourself?
  • Were there any similarities between you and your partner?
  • How can you better use your style at home and school?

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