Activity: Asking “Why?”

Have you ever found yourself contemplating the origins of your insecurities and the ways to conquer them? 

In our ‘Asking ‘Why?’ SEL’ activity, we embark on a reflective journey, delving deep into the core of these insecurities and seeking strategies to overcome them. It’s a well-established fact that the simple act of asking ‘Why’ can lead to profound insights. 

In this blog post, we’ll walk you through this transformative exercise, designed to help students gain a deeper understanding of themselves and discover effective approaches for building confidence and resilience. Join us on this enlightening exploration of self-discovery and empowerment as we unlock the potential for personal growth and emotional well-being. 

The Goal

This exercise helps students take a deeper look into their insecurities to find ways to overcome them.

RAMP (ASCA) Mindset & Behaviors addressed and developed:

Academic: Critical Thinking; Self Direction / Self Motivation.
Communication; Social Maturity.
Social/Emotional: Identifying Goals; Perseverance; Coping Skills; Empathy; Self-Confidence; Whole Self.


  • Circle of chairs
  • Indigo Report

Step 1: 

Have students form pairs—one listener, one talker. Tell the talker to share one of their insecurities with the listener.

Example: “Why” questions could allow one student to express that he wants to do well in school so he doesn’t feel stupid.

Step 2:

Have the listener begin asking the talker “Why” questions (“Why does this make you feel insecure?”). There will be five questions each round.

Step 3:

Switch roles and do another five rounds.

Step 4:

Have the students talk about how they could deal with their insecurities. Ask if any groups feel comfortable sharing.

Note: For individual students that discuss deep or troubling issues, reference their Social Emotional Scores on the Indigo Dashboard.

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